Cultivating Intimacy in Relationships

The Oxford English Dictionary defines intimacy as the “inmost thoughts or feelings; proceeding from, concerning, or affecting one’s inmost self: closely personal.” While intimacy can undoubtedly exist outside of romantic relationships, it most commonly associated with romance. Intimacy allows people to bond with each other on many levels. Therefore, it is a necessary component of healthyContinue reading “Cultivating Intimacy in Relationships”

Letting Go…of Anger

Anger is an emotion, same as happiness and sadness. And this means that anger in itself is not a problem, but rather what we can do when we are angry. This is the same as happiness and sadness… after all, if I get so happy that I start spending all my money, then that’s anContinue reading “Letting Go…of Anger”

Exam Season – ready for this?

Exams are one of the main stressors for young people, and this stress can really affect our productivity. Here are some tips and ideas which can help you this exam season. Create the right working environment Have comfortable furniture to sit on. Get a larger desk, giving you more comfort when spreading out notes andContinue reading “Exam Season – ready for this?”

How to Love Yourself in a Few Easy Steps

Getting to know yourself, and loving yourself, can be one of the most difficult, yet rewarding, experiences. After all, you’re stuck with yourself for a lifetime, might as well enjoy the ride.

First Aid for Self-Injuries

There are many forms of self-harm (also known as non-suicidal self-harm). These can come in the form of cutting, hitting, pulling of hair, and so on. In another blog I will go into harm reduction when it comes to self-harm, but now I want to explore how to take care of your injuries, specifically afterContinue reading “First Aid for Self-Injuries”

Self-Compassion and Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is not the same as arrogance, or having a lack of modesty. Self-esteem means tht you are realistic about your abilities, neither overestimating nor underestimating them. Self-esteem generally starts developing in children, around the age of 3. Through the approval and praise from the adults around us, we start to view ourselves in aContinue reading “Self-Compassion and Self-Esteem”

What does anxiety feel like, to you?

What does Anxiety feel like for you? Do your palms sweat, does your heart beat faster? Is this a strange feeling, or are you so used to your own fast heartbeat that when it slows down you feel confused?  Anxiety is a common feeling, and it can be useful, as anxiety reminds us to beContinue reading “What does anxiety feel like, to you?”

I was in a training a few years ago, and the trainer used the metaphor of an Octopus to symbolise our attachments and relationships to things. In essence, if I have 8 tentacles, and all 8 of those tentacles are in the same object or person, then while the pleasure I get is 8 timesContinue reading